So.There

You always spend your time complaining that the girls never go for you. You claim they always go for the “asshole” or the jerk, anyone who mistreats them basically. I’m writing this to tell you that you’re wrong. Maybe it’s all of you who are going after the wrong girl. It’s not our fault that you take it upon yourself to chase the women who are uninterested. And they’re not even uninterested, they’re just blind to the idea that the men they desire are not as well balanced as they imagine them to be. We notice the good qualities you possess and see more than just potential friendship. And by we, I mean all of us girls or women out there that just stand by and be the friend of the guy who is stuck being the friend of some girl who plays with his heart “unintentionally”. We are that friend. We are the ones who think it’s stupid for you to not recognize what you have in front of you, just like you think the girl you’re lusting after doesn’t recognize what she has with you.

But all of you out there, all of the nice guys who bitch and moan about never getting the girl in the end, just be quiet. I’m a girl who never manages to keep a nice guy. Why? Because rather then go after men who use their jerk-ish qualities to attract girls, I go for the nice ones. The guys who would rather hold your hand than smack your ass. But I get nothing in return. I get a common attraction for all of about a week and then they get bored. I guess it’s because there’s no challenge, unless “nice girls” just never win either. I think the entire obstacle of getting past the “friend zone” is partly what contributes to the attraction in the first place. Without that, I feel like nice guys would never be on the losing end, because they’re nice. The guys who I see complain most, however, are guys with no confidence. That is no one’s fault but your own. I give props to the guys out there who are willing to go out there and at least try. But it bothers me when they say “nice guys always finish last” when that’s not even why they’re failing. They need to man up, and make themselves vulnerable. Girls are familiar with this, and the “asshole” is usually the one they make themselves vulnerable for.

All I’m saying, is stop complaining if you’re not going to actively do something about it. As for me, I’ll keep trying as well. I’m going to stay positive, don’t you even worry about it.